The "Butterfly Hug" - Bilateral Stimulation for Relaxation

This exercise is an E.M.D.R. (Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing) method and is particularly effective for reducing feelings of stress and anxiety, even panic attacks, if you catch it at its very beginnings.

Simply repeat this process until you get a sense of feeling better, relaxing, or letting go. The "Butterfly Hug" is done by hugging yourself, with left hand on right arm and right hand on left arm. Then just started tapping alternately back and forth with your hands, left, right, left, right, and so on until you get to the relaxation level that you desire.

The trick is to tap bilaterally, meaning alternately, one then the other, right, left, right, left, (or, left, right, left, right), etc. Continue this process until you feel less anxious/calmer. You can get a better impression of this measure, perhaps, if you ask yourself what number of intensity of anxiety you have before you start tapping (1-10 with 10 being the most intense). As you tap, periodically ask yourself what the number of intensity is. You will find that the number continues to go down the longer you persist in tapping.

Disclaimer: Another effect is to actually bring up and release traumatic experiences we've have stored in our brains from past events. So, if this process irritates you in any way, please stop tapping and try it again at a later time.

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Hypnosis recording to give you an idea of another therapeutic method I use to help people get relief and release from those thoughts and emotions that cause us to get stressed.

When listening to this recording, please do so in your own quiet space with nobody around. Do not drive or use any machinery when listening to this recording. The more you listen the more effective it will be.

Resource Tapping, a process created by Laurell Parnell, author of "Tapping In: A Step-by-Step Guide to Activating Your Healing Resources Through Bilateral Stimulation"

Instructions for “Tapping In” Peace and Calm

1.  Find a comfortable place to sit or lie, where you will not be disturbed.

2.  Close your eyes. Take several long, slow breaths, fill the belly, and exhale slowly. Let yourself relax.

3. Imagine a peaceful, calm place. This can be someplace you’ve been or someplace in your imagination, like a beach or a meadow. Once you have  a location, bring up as much sensory detail of the place as you can: sights, sounds, smells, sensations, and the emotional feeling that goes along with being there. You  might even imagine the time of year, the time of day, and what you are wearing.

4. When you have a sense of the place, begin to tap on your knees right-left, right-left. The taps can be quick or slow, just find a speed that feels best to you. Do this 6 to 12 times (tapping right and left equals one time). (Alternatively you can do ‘butterfly taps,’ crossing your arms in front of your chest and tapping your right shoulder with your left hand and your left shoulder with your right hand.)

5. Pause and check in with yourself and see how you are feeling.

6. You may keep tapping as long as it feels good and positive

The whole process should take only a few minutes. Repeat as often as you like. (If you have any problem following the above instructions above, look up “Laurel Parnell Resource Tapping” on Youtube for video instructions.) Sometimes the tapping may take you into other kinds of memories and thoughts. If this happens, stop and return to the positive image. It’s best to do short sets and check in with yourself to make sure you are still feeling the good feelings.

“Tapping In” Nurturing, Protection or Guidance Figures

You can use the same instructions explained above to ‘tap in’ figures that symbolize nurturing, protection and guidance. These figures can be real people from your life or  imaginary figures from books, cartoons,  movies or TV.  They can also be pets, animals, mythic or spiritual figures. What’s important is that they evoke a positive feeling inside of you when you think about them and that you are able to stay with that feeling for a few moments.

You’re looking for an uncomplicated, positive feeling. It’s probably best not to choose figures that evoke difficult feelings, like someone from your past who could be alternately loving or raging. For example, a dog or lion might be a protective figure, a loving grandmother might be a nurturing figure, Buddha or Albert Einstein might be a wisdom figure.

Follow the instructions above for a calm and peaceful place, but substitute your imagined nurturing, protective, or guidance figure for the peaceful place. Get some kind of internal felt sense of the figure before proceeding with the tapping.

If you want to find out more about this powerful and easy-to-use technique, you can find more detailed instructions and many other applications in the book “Tapping In” by Laurel Parnell.

(Above instructions taken from http://www.jimchristrup.com/therapistblog/2012/10/resource-tapping-for-emotional-healing/) 


Another method I use with my clients in a process called Ask and Receive. Go to www.AskandReceive.org for more information.

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