What is Happiness for You?

 

 

Different people define Happiness in different ways. A dictionary definition of happiness is “a state of well-being, a pleasurable or satisfying experience.”  Most people go on their Pursuit of Happiness by seeking out the pleasurable or satisfying experiences by buying things, doing things, eating things, achieving things, getting awards and rewarded, getting the good job, the house with the white picket fence, the 2.5 kids, etc., in essence, some of the American Dream.

 

Most of us spend our time and money pursuing these things which gives us “happiness” for a while, only to find that, to continue this feeling of happiness, we have to keep engaging in these behaviors in order to keep feeding our happiness.

 

This makes us think, at least temporarily that we are happy, and, it is true, to

be happy at the cognitive level is to feel  happy  with your life, the  progress

you are making on  life  goals or  the  direction in  which  your life  is going.

 

Being truly happy is not about owning things or doing things or being with a certain person or having a certain job, etc., although all of them can help us feel good in the short run.  The person who is truly happy is the one that can find happiness within themselves first. Only then can they easily find happiness in just about anything. This is where true happiness is found.

 

When people become unhappy, most likely they’re basing their happiness on something outside of themselves. This is called having more of an external locus of control, where one’s happiness depends on external events.

If you want to be truly happy you must start by being happy with who you are. To be happy on an emotional level means experiencing fairly frequent positive emotions and relatively infrequent negative emotions. So, if you have frequent negative emotions, they are being caused by your negative thoughts and beliefs, which all result in dysfunctional behaviors such as anxiety, worry, fear, depression, anger, guilt, shame and even physical pain.

So, to be more happy with who you are, you have to RELEASE the negative thoughts and beliefs that making you unhappy and cause your negative emotions and dysfunctional behaviors.

Find Happiness
Within

I can help you do that with the more progressive, much more effective therapeutic methods that I have been using on myself and my clients for years, the Quickest, Easiest and most Effective being Brainspotting.

Some Factors Associated with Happiness

 

(What areas are you Happy or Content in and which areas would you want to improve in?)
 

Positive Mindset overall

 

  • Optimism and Gratitude

  • a sense of hope and excitement about your life

  • feeling like you like yourself

 

Financial: managing your economic life to reduce stress and increase security

 

  • Job satisfaction/Money? Do You Love Your Career/Job? 

 

Relationships

 

  • Family Relationships

 

  • Family of Origin as well as extended family

 

  • Love Relationship - Your Romantic Life

 

  • Social Relationships: having supportive relationships and love in your life

 

  • People who have one or more close friendships are happier.

 

  • Work Relationships

 

  • With Peers at work

 

  • With your Boss(es)

 

Community

 

  • liking where you live, feeling safe, and having pride in your community

 

Purpose: liking what you do each day and being motivated to achieve your goals

 

  • Do you have a purpose in life? 

 

  • Do you have a greater meaning in your life?

 

  • Any spiritual leanings that help you through tougher times?

 

Physical: having good health and enough energy to get things done daily

 

  • Regular exercise is associated with improved mental well-being

 

  • Eat well enough

 

Peace with Your Past: 

 

For many people, regret is a lifelong cause of unhappiness. People who aren’t at peace with their past can never be completely happy in the present. Since the past cannot be changed, the only way to keep your past from ruining your present is to make peace with it.

 

And, last, but certainly not least, 
 

  • How do you Relieve/Release Your Stress?

So, to be more happy with who you are,

you have to RELEASE

the negative thoughts, beliefs, and feelings 

that are making you unhappy.

I WILL HELP YOU DO JUST THAT!

with Brainspotting and the other more progressive,

much more effective therapeutic methods

that I have been using on myself and my clients for years,

the Quickest, Easiest and most Effective being Brainspotting!

CALL ME!

 

I CAN HELP YOU

TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE!

 

(914) 242-3484

 

 

Brainspotting  

Will Get You There!

Brainspotting Specialist

                                                             

Dave Dodge, L.C.S.W., C.B.S.P.

 

Skype Sessions are available

 

  (914) 242-3484       Mt. Kisco, N.Y.     dave@acceleratedhealingsolutions.com